Monday, 8 February 2010

Why Does Adultery Matter in a Secular Society?

"Secularism prohibits the imposition of any religion, except the religion of secularism"

According to the UK laws, adultery is illegal, but not a criminal offence; almost all the western secular societies uphold this view. Adultery only has relevance within the institution of marriage, which is rooted in religious texts. A fundamental tenet of a secular society is that religion is reduced to a personal choice; it is the prerogative of the individual to uphold or to abandon it. Therefore, they can formally marry in a Church, or cohabit, or participate in an open relationship where adultery has no meaning.

If secular societies placed any values on the institution of marriage, it would have classed adultery as a criminal offence, like the Sharia laws. Yet, the response to the revelation of the adulterous affair of the former England Captain, John Terry, gives the impression that a crime has been committed. Furthermore, there appears to be some kind of moral indignation towards John Terry from the masses, indicated by their silence after he is removed from his position as Captain and the numerous posts on the various websites. Any impartial person would be compelled to point the blatant hypocrisy by citing the old Biblical statement, “let those without sin cast the first stone”. This sort of response reveals the twisted and contradictory nature of secularism. Consider the following points, which illustrate this innate contradiction.

• There is a relentless push towards individual freedom, which subjects them to a sexually permissive culture from the cradle to the grave. Then the liberal laws that manifest in the ethos of sexual freedom permit all kinds of sexual activity, from participating in group-sex, homosexuality to the various forms of deviant sexual practices. The Jerry Springer show may serve as a useful guide here. Throughout life, they have been trained to seek sexual fulfilment without moral restraint, but once they get married, suddenly the moral barometer is raised, and they are expected to uphold the biblical commandment of “thou shall not commit adultery”. It is safe to assume that most football players are not committed Christians, and marriage will not transform them into virtuous monogamous men, after receiving years of ‘education’ and ‘training’ on how they should mate with the opposite sex. They cannot suddenly discard their established traits and close down the hormone channels.

• How would the media have reacted, if John Terry were involved with a man rather than a woman? There would have been a lot more sympathy and understanding in fear of being labelled as a homophobic, there is a drive to make homosexuality a norm. Thus, according to the secular guide, homosexuality is considered morally acceptable, but not an adulterous heterosexual relationship. Many would argue, a sexual act between a male and female is the norm, and a necessity, to which all homosexuals owe their existence is an undisputed fact! Whereas many (if not most) people, find a sexual relationship between two males abhorrent even if they do not speak out in fear of the liberal bullies.

In 2007, three of the Manchester United players allegedly ‘roasted’ a 19-year-old girl; the entire team with the exception of Cristiano Ronaldo was at the sleazy Christmas party, there was also a serious allegation of rape. The incident was not taken seriously by the authorities, nobody was punished in anyway, the tabloids covered the incident as a bit of gossip, and the graphic description was designed to titillate the readers rather than express moral indignation; most definitely, sex sells. There are many other similar incidents, and many more that nobody notices, especially if the players are from the lower divisions.

A young footballer, with money and fame, physically in peak condition with a six-pack abdominal, makes him a valuable catch for many women. Even the talentless duo of Jedwards led to young females bearing themselves in front of their house. For many of these women, catching these players or pop stars is an instant ticket to fame and fortune, not to mention a good time as well. This sort of behaviour did not led to a media outcry, the secular message is, the Muslims should bring up their daughters with such ‘honourable’ virtues rather imprison them in their veil (Hijab)!

The competition is fierce amongst females. It reminds you of a human cattle market, the players are exerting the demand with their money and fame; the women are supplying their flesh. Nobody is forcing these individuals to behave this way; they are exhibiting what free society is about. They are having fun. Is this what Bush and Blair is exporting to the Islamic world with their bombs and bullets, hoping that Muslim women would be emancipated with such traits?

So, why should adultery matter in a society where marriage is declining? The answer is obvious - it is an act of betrayal. For those who are cohabiting through a civil partnership it depends on the initial agreement formed by the couple. Regardless, secular society teaches and encourages one to explore and expand the sexual boundaries without moral restraints, which contradicts the values of commitment to ones spouse or partner. This is like teaching a man to be greedy and ruthless, and then expect him to show generosity after he has made losses.

Yamin Zakaria (
London, UK

Published on 08/02/2010

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